Two Simple Words

Two simple words

Two simple words… Let Them (him)

The Mel Robbins book, The Let Them Theory,  could not have come into my life at a better time. The holidays are always difficult for me, now don't get me wrong, I have adjusted to my new normal, my family is incredibly supportive and Christmas is still my most favorite time of the year, but there is still that little ache in my heart for what is missing and what will never be again. So, when I saw Mel mentioned in one of my friend’s reels, I had to check her out for myself, I was pretty skeptical. I have read so many similar books since the divorce and all of them just left me a bit more screwed up than before I read them. But, this book… WOW! I binge listened to this book over a weekend, I listened as I drove, I listened as I cooked and I actually listened instead of watching football…I know, mind blowing, but once I started I had to get all the information at once. If you are not familiar, the basic premise is pretty much, you cannot control what others do, so you just need to “let them”. “When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life” -Mel Robbins

Although this theory could be relevant in so many aspects in my life, it definitely resonates with me and the overwhelming amount of anger and resentment I harbor. After listening to this book, I have come to the realization that I simply need to release the power that he holds over me and let him. Let him be, let him live the life that he chose. This does not necessarily mean that I have forgiven him, and God knows I will never be able to forget, but at this point there is absolutely nothing I can do to change what has happened, and there is no going back, so I simply need to let him. On the flip side, by releasing the power the I gave to him, it allows me the freedom to let me make my new normal the best it can be, to let me focus on myself, to let me be present in my  kids and grandkid’s lives, to let me be free of the obsessive/compulsive need to NOT let him and most importantly, and what I look forward to the most, to let me love again. I am putting my life back into my own hands and I could not feel better about it. 

If you have the opportunity to read/listen to this book, I highly recommend it! If you are interested in having a discussion about this book, hit me up and we can chat!